حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ بَشَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا بَهْزُ بْنُ حَكِيمٍ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ جَدِّي، قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ نِسَاؤُنَا مَا نَأْتِي مِنْهُنَّ وَمَا نَذَرُ قَالَ ‏"‏ائْتِ حَرْثَكَ أَنَّى شِئْتَ وَأَطْعِمْهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ وَاكْسُهَا إِذَا اكْتَسَيْتَ وَلاَ تُقَبِّحِ الْوَجْهَ وَلاَ تَضْرِبْ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُدَ رَوَى شُعْبَةُ ‏"‏ تُطْعِمُهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ وَتَكْسُوهَا إِذَا اكْتَسَيْتَ

Bahz bin Hakim reported on the authority of his father from his grandfather (Mu'awiyah ibn Haydah) as saying

I said: O Messenger of Allah, regarding our wives, what should we approach of them and what should we leave? He said: Approach your tillage however you wish, and feed her when you eat, and clothe her when you clothe yourself, and do not revile the face, and do not strike.

Abu Dawud said: Shu'bah narrated: And that you feed her when you eat, and clothe her when you clothe yourself.