'Someone who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.'
Looking after children - Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 95
The hadith "Someone who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy" appears in Imam Bukhari's Al-Adab Al-Mufrad (Chapter 95) and other authentic collections. This profound statement from the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) establishes a fundamental principle governing divine and human interactions.
The Principle of Reciprocity in Mercy
This hadith establishes that mercy operates on the principle of reciprocity. Just as Allah's mercy encompasses all things, He expects His servants to embody this quality in their dealings with creation. The one who hardens his heart against others effectively blocks the channels of divine mercy from reaching him.
Scholars explain that this encompasses mercy toward all creation - humans, animals, and even inanimate objects. Particularly emphasized is mercy toward children, the elderly, and those weaker than oneself, as these demonstrate genuine compassion.
Levels of Mercy and Their Consequences
Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali comments that this hadith indicates multiple dimensions: mercy between people in worldly matters, and Allah's mercy in the hereafter. The one who shows no mercy to Allah's creation deserves to be deprived of Allah's mercy.
Al-Munawi adds that this serves as a severe warning against hard-heartedness. The Prophet consistently demonstrated mercy, especially toward children, often kissing and playing with them, setting the example for his community.
Practical Application in Child Rearing
In the context of Al-Adab Al-Mufrad's chapter on children, this hadith teaches that showing mercy to children is not merely recommended but essential for receiving divine mercy. This includes: gentle treatment, providing proper education, fulfilling their rights, and avoiding harshness.
The scholars note that mercy shown to children particularly touches Allah's mercy, as children are among the most vulnerable of His creation. A parent or caregiver's harshness toward children directly contradicts this prophetic teaching and risks divine displeasure.