Sahih al-Bukhari 5355

ʿUmar ibn Hafs narrated to us: My father narrated to us: al-Aʿmash narrated to us: Abu Salih narrated to us, who said: Abu Hurayrah, may God be pleased with him, told me that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “The best charity is that which leaves one self-sufficient. The upper hand is better than the lower hand. Begin with those for whom you are responsible.”

A woman says, “Either feed me or divorce me.” A slave says, “Feed me and put me to work.” A son says, “Feed me; to whom will you leave me?” They said, “Abu Hurayrah, did you hear this from the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him?” He said, “No; this comes from Abu Hurayrah own store.”