Sahih al-Bukhari

Sahih al-Bukhari 6476

To protect one's tongue
Arabic hadith text
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو الْوَلِيدِ، حَدَّثَنَا لَيْثٌ، حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدٌ الْمَقْبُرِيُّ، عَنْ أَبِي شُرَيْحٍ الْخُزَاعِيِّ، قَالَ سَمِعَ أُذُنَاىَ، وَوَعَاهُ، قَلْبِي النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ ‏"‏الضِّيَافَةُ ثَلاَثَةُ أَيَّامٍ جَائِزَتُهُ ‏"‏‏.‏ قِيلَ مَا جَائِزَتُهُ قَالَ ‏"‏ يَوْمٌ وَلَيْلَةٌ، وَمَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيُكْرِمْ ضَيْفَهُ، وَمَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيَقُلْ خَيْرًا، أَوْ لِيَسْكُتْ ‏"
Translation
Narrated Abu Shuraih Al-Khuza`i

My ears heard and my heart grasped (the statement which) the Prophet (ﷺ) said, "The period for keeping one's guest is three days (and don't forget) his reward." It was asked, "What is his reward?" He said, "In the first night and the day he should be given a high class quality of meals; and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should entertain his guest generously; and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should talk what is good (sense) or keep quiet."

Commentary

Overview & Central Theme

This hadith, transmitted by Abu Shuraih al-Khuza'i (may Allah be pleased with him), encapsulates the Islamic etiquette of hospitality (diyafah) as a manifestation of faith in Allah and the Last Day. The central theme intertwines three profound principles: the temporal limit of obligatory hospitality (three days), the excellence of generous treatment (especially the first day and night), and the inseparable link between true faith and refined speech or silence. The Prophet (ﷺ) elevates hospitality from a mere social custom to an act of worship, while simultaneously disciplining the tongue—showing that faith is not complete without both generosity toward guests and guarding one's words. This hadith is a cornerstone in the Book of Ar-Riqaq (Heart-Tenders), reminding believers that deeds of kindness and verbal restraint are means of softening the heart and drawing nearer to Allah.

Context & Linguistic Insights

The hadith was narrated by Abu Shuraih al-Khuza'i, a Companion who lived in Medina, likely during the late Medinan period when the Muslim community was established and social norms were being codified. The context (sabab al-wurud) relates to the practice of some hosts who would over-extend hospitality to the point of burdening themselves, or guests who would overstay, causing hardship. The Arabic keyword "al-qira" (hospitality) derives from the root qa-ra-ya, meaning to receive or accommodate a guest, and in pre-Islamic Arabia, it was a mark of honor and nobility. The phrase "thalaathat ayaam" (three days) sets a legal boundary: the first three days are a right (haqq) of the guest, with the first night and day requiring "dhiyafah" (high-quality, special meals), while beyond that is voluntary charity (sadaqah). The term "yuhillu" (renders lawful) in some narrations indicates that the host is not sinful if he declines to continue beyond three days. The final clause "man kana yu'minu billahi wal-yawmil-akhir" (whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day) is a rhetorical emphasis, repeated twice, linking speech and hospitality to the core of faith—a linguistic device to stress that these actions are not optional but integral to sincere belief.

Key Scholarly Insights & Legal Benefits

  • The right of the guest is limited to three days; beyond that, any hospitality is considered voluntary charity (sadaqah), and the host may decline without sin—this balances generosity with the prevention of hardship (mashaqqah) on the host.
  • The first day and night demand the best quality of food and service (al-diyafah), signifying that the initial reception should be exceptional, as it honors the guest and fulfills the obligation fully.
  • The repetition of "whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day" establishes that generosity and guarding one's tongue are not mere ethical recommendations but essential manifestations of faith (iman)—a view agreed upon by the majority of scholars (jumhur), who derive that speech must either be beneficial or silence, as silence is safer than harmful talk.
"The Prophet (ﷺ) made the right of the guest three days, and the first day is the day of his reward (thawab), meaning the day he must be honored with the best of what is available. After that, it is a favor (ma'ruf) and not an obligation. This is the consensus of the scholars, and it prevents the host from being harmed while preserving the dignity of the guest." — Imam Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani, Fath al-Bari (Sharh Sahih al-Bukhari)

Daily Life & Spiritual Application

In our contemporary context, this hadith teaches us to transform hospitality into a spiritual act: when hosting, we should strive to offer the best we can, especially in the initial moments, without overburdening ourselves—recognizing that true generosity is balanced with wisdom. For the guest, it implies not overstaying one's welcome, as the Prophet (ﷺ) also warned against causing hardship. The instruction on speech is a daily reminder: before speaking, we must assess whether our words are good (khayr) or beneficial; if not, silence is the recommended path, as it preserves the heart's softness and avoids regret. This can be practiced by pausing before reacting, using speech for encouragement, truth, and kindness, and remaining silent in moments of anger or gossip. By embodying these teachings, we fulfill the Sunnah, elevate our iman, and cultivate a heart that is tender toward Allah and His creation—achieving the very essence of Ar-Riqaq, which is to make the heart alive with faith and mindfulness.