Sunan an-Nasa'i
Sunan an-Nasa'i 3254
أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ، عَنْ حَمَّادِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ الْبُنَانِيِّ، حَدَّثَنِي ابْنُ عُمَرَ بْنِ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ، لَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ . فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ " ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللَّهَ لَكِ فَيُذْهِبُ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ فَسَتُكْفَيْنَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ أَنْ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلاَ غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ " . فَقَالَتْ لاِبْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَزَوَّجَهُ . مُخْتَصَرٌ .
Muhammad ibn Ismail ibn Ibrahim reported to us; he said: Yazid narrated to us, from Hammad ibn Salamah, from Thabit al-Bunani. Umar ibn Abi Salamah narrated to me, from his father, from Umm Salamah, who said: When my waiting period ended, Abu Bakr sent to propose to me on the Prophet’s behalf, but I did not accept. Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sent Umar ibn al-Khattab to propose to me on his behalf. I said: ‘Tell the Messenger of Allah that I am a jealous woman, that I have children, and that none of my guardians is present.’
Umar went to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and told him. He said: ‘Go back to her and tell her: “As for your saying that you are jealous, I will pray to Allah for you, and He will remove your jealousy. As for your saying that you have children, your children will be taken care of. As for your saying that none of your guardians is present, none of your guardians, whether present or absent, would dislike this.”’ She said to her son: ‘Umar, get up and marry the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) to me.’ So he married her to him. This is an abridged report.
Translation notes
Umm Salamah’s stated concerns are jealousy, responsibility for her children, and the absence of a guardian. Her son Umar then conducts the marriage on her behalf.
لَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ .
The wording بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ means Abu Bakr proposed on the Prophet’s behalf, but the exact referent of “she did not marry him” is compressed.
Does “she did not accept” best convey that she did not proceed with the proposal conveyed by Abu Bakr?