Sunan an-Nasa'i
Sunan an-Nasa'i 3266
أَخْبَرَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ جُرَيْجٍ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ ابْنَ أَبِي مُلَيْكَةَ، يُحَدِّثُ عَنْ ذَكْوَانَ أَبِي عَمْرٍو، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " اسْتَأْمِرُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي أَبْضَاعِهِنَّ " . قِيلَ فَإِنَّ الْبِكْرَ تَسْتَحِي وَتَسْكُتُ . قَالَ " هُوَ إِذْنُهَا " .
Ishaq ibn Mansur reported to us; he said: Yahya ibn Sa'id narrated to us, from Ibn Jurayj, who said: I heard Ibn Abi Mulaykah relate from Dhakwan Abu Amr, from A'ishah, from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), who said: ‘Consult women regarding their marital relations.’ It was said: ‘A virgin may feel shy and remain silent.’ He said: ‘That is her permission.’
Translation notes
The phrase fi abda'ihinna refers to women’s marriage/sexual relations; rendered here as ‘marital relations’ to retain the context without over-literal wording.