Sunan an-Nasa'i

Sunan an-Nasa'i 2603

Asking When There Is No Alternative
Arabic hadith text
أَخْبَرَنِي الرَّبِيعُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ دَاوُدَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ بَكْرٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ الْحَارِثِ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ بْنِ الزُّبَيْرِ، وَسَعِيدِ بْنِ الْمُسَيَّبِ، أَنَّ حَكِيمَ بْنَ حِزَامٍ، قَالَ سَأَلْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَأَعْطَانِي ثُمَّ سَأَلْتُهُ فَأَعْطَانِي ثُمَّ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ يَا حَكِيمُ إِنَّهَذَا الْمَالَ حُلْوَةٌ فَمَنْ أَخَذَهُ بِسَخَاوَةِ نَفْسٍ بُورِكَ لَهُ فِيهِ وَمَنْ أَخَذَهُ بِإِشْرَافِ نَفْسٍ لَمْ يُبَارَكْ لَهُ فِيهِ وَكَانَ كَالَّذِي يَأْكُلُ وَلاَ يَشْبَعُ وَالْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ حَكِيمٌ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ لاَ أَرْزَأُ أَحَدًا بَعْدَكَ حَتَّى أُفَارِقَ الدُّنْيَا بِشَىْءٍ
Translation
Kahim bin Hizamsaid

"I asked the Messenger of Allah and he gave me, then I asked him and he gave me. The he said: 'O Hakim, this wealth is attractive and sweet. Whoever takes it without being greedy, it will be blessed for him, and whoever takes it with avarice, it will be blessed for him. He is like one who eats and is not satisfied. And the upper hand is better than the lower hand.' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! By the One Who sent you with the truth, I will never ask anyone for anything after you, until I depart this world. "'

Commentary

Overview & Central Theme

This profound hadith, recorded by Imam An-Nasa'i in the Book of Zakah (Sunan an-Nasa'i 2603), narrates the exchange between Hakim ibn Hizam (may Allah be pleased with him) and the Messenger of Allah ﷺ regarding the seeking of worldly wealth. The central theme is the etiquettes of acquiring wealth and the spiritual distinction between contentment (qana'ah) and greed (sharah). The Prophet ﷺ beautifully illustrates that wealth is "attractive and sweet"—a trial and a test—and that its blessing depends entirely upon the inner state of the heart. The hadith culminates in the powerful principle that "the upper hand (the giving hand) is better than the lower hand (the receiving hand)," establishing a hierarchy of nobility rooted in generosity and self-sufficiency rather than accumulation. Hakim's transformative response—vowing never to ask anyone for anything after that moment—demonstrates the profound impact of prophetic wisdom in reshaping a soul from dependence to dignified independence.

Context & Linguistic Insights

Hakim ibn Hizam was a noble companion who had embraced Islam at the time of the Conquest of Mecca. He was known for his generosity and had previously been a close associate of the Quraysh elite. In this narration, he approached the Prophet ﷺ seeking financial assistance, and the Prophet ﷺ gave him. He asked again, and again the Prophet ﷺ gave. This repeated giving was not mere indulgence but a deliberate pedagogical moment. The Arabic key phrase "hādhā al-māl khaḍiratun ḥulwatun" (this wealth is attractive and sweet) uses feminine adjectives (khaḍiratun, ḥulwatun) that evoke the image of fresh, green vegetation—something visually pleasing and tempting. The phrase "man akhadhahū bi sakhāwati nafs" (whoever takes it without being greedy) literally means "with generosity of the soul"—a state where one's heart is not enslaved by the wealth. Conversely, "bi ishrāfi nafs" (with avarice) indicates an expansive, craving soul that is never satisfied. The Prophet's ﷺ simile of the greedy person being "like one who eats and is not satisfied" (ka alladhī ya'kulu wa lā yashba') vividly portrays the insatiable nature of greed—a hunger that consumes but never nourishes. The "upper hand" (al-yad al-'ulyā) refers to the giving hand, and the "lower hand" (al-yad al-suflā) to the receiving hand, establishing a rank of honor based on giving rather than taking.

Key Scholarly Insights & Legal Benefits

  • Permissibility of asking when in need: The Prophet ﷺ gave Hakim without rebuke, establishing that asking for assistance in genuine need is permissible, though the higher path is self-sufficiency and refraining from asking.
  • The condition of blessing: The blessing (barakah) in wealth is contingent upon the heart's disposition—taking with contentment and without greed invites divine blessing, while taking with avarice strips the wealth of its barakah, leaving the person spiritually impoverished even amid material abundance.
  • Superiority of giving over receiving: The hadith establishes a clear ethical hierarchy—the giving hand is superior to the receiving hand. This principle underlies the Islamic emphasis on charity (sadaqah), zakat, and voluntary giving, and encourages Muslims to strive for the status of givers rather than takers.
  • The virtue of 'Iffah (self-restraint): Hakim's resolution to never ask anyone for anything reflects the lofty station of 'iffah—a dignified self-restraint that the Prophet ﷺ later affirmed, saying to Hakim, "O Hakim, this wealth is attractive and sweet..." and then praised his resolve.
"The meaning of 'the upper hand is better than the lower hand' is that the hand that gives and spends is better than the hand that takes and receives. This is a general principle: giving is more virtuous than taking, except in matters where taking is obligatory or recommended. The Prophet ﷺ intended to encourage generosity and discourage asking and greed." — Imam An-Nawawi, Sharh Sahih Muslim

Daily Life & Spiritual Application

This hadith serves as a timeless compass for navigating the material world with spiritual integrity. In daily life, a Muslim should cultivate an attitude of gratitude and contentment with what Allah has provided, recognizing that true wealth is the richness of the soul (ghina al-nafs). Before seeking anything from others, one should exhaust personal effort and trust in Allah's provision. When wealth comes, whether through earning, gifts, or inheritance, the Muslim should receive it with an open, generous heart—not clinging to it possessively but viewing it as a trust from Allah to be used for good. The principle of the "upper hand" encourages proactive charity: giving to family, neighbors, the poor, and worthy causes, thereby elevating one's spiritual rank. Practically, this means budgeting for sadaqah, volunteering time and skills, and mentoring others toward self-sufficiency. Moreover, the hadith warns against the modern epidemic of consumerism and insatiable desire—the "eating without being satisfied"—urging mindfulness in spending and a focus on needs over wants. By embodying Hakim's spirit of dignified independence, a Muslim can break free from the chains of asking and craving, achieving a state of inner peace and reliance upon Allah alone, which is the essence of true freedom and nobility.