Jami' at-Tirmidhi
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2977
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ، حَدَّثَنِي سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ، قَالَ كَانَتِ الْيَهُودُ إِذَا حَاضَتِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْهُمْ لَمْ يُوَاكِلُوهَا وَلَمْ يُشَارِبُوهَا وَلَمْ يُجَامِعُوهَا فِي الْبُيُوتِ فَسُئِلَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم عَنْ ذَلِكَ فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى : (يَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الْمَحِيضِ قُلْ هُوَ أَذًى ) فَأَمَرَهُمْ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَنْ يُوَاكِلُوهُنَّ وَيُشَارِبُوهُنَّ وَأَنْ يَكُونُوا مَعَهُنَّ فِي الْبُيُوتِ وَأَنْ يَفْعَلُوا كُلَّ شَيْءٍ مَا خَلاَ النِّكَاحَ فَقَالَتِ الْيَهُودُ مَا يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَدَعَ شَيْئًا مِنْ أَمْرِنَا إِلاَّ خَالَفَنَا فِيهِ . قَالَ فَجَاءَ عَبَّادُ بْنُ بِشْرٍ وَأُسَيْدُ بْنُ حُضَيْرٍ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَأَخْبَرَاهُ بِذَلِكَ وَقَالاَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَفَلاَ نَنْكِحُهُنَّ فِي الْمَحِيضِ فَتَمَعَّرَ وَجْهُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم حَتَّى ظَنَنَّا أَنَّهُ قَدْ غَضِبَ عَلَيْهِمَا فَقَامَا فَاسْتَقْبَلَتْهُمَا هَدِيَّةٌ مِنْ لَبَنٍ فَأَرْسَلَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فِي آثَارِهِمَا فَسَقَاهُمَا فَعَلِمْنَا أَنَّهُ لَمْ يَغْضَبْ عَلَيْهِمَا . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ .
Unreviewed translation. All hadiths in this collection are available in five languages. Titles and introductions may remain in Arabic.
Anas reported: ‘When a Jewish woman menstruated, they would not eat or drink with her, nor share their homes with her. The Prophet was asked about this, and Allah revealed, “They ask you about menstruation. Say: It is a state of discomfort” (Qur’an 2:222). The Messenger of Allah instructed them to eat and drink with menstruating women, remain with them in their homes, and do everything with them except sexual intercourse. The Jews said, “He leaves nothing of our practices without opposing us.” ‘Abbad ibn Bishr and Usayd ibn Hudayr came to the Messenger of Allah and asked, “Messenger of Allah, should we then have intercourse with them during menstruation?” The Prophet’s face changed, and they thought he was angry with them. They left, and a gift of milk came to the Prophet. He sent some after them for the two men to drink, and then they knew he had not been angry with them.’ Abu ‘Isa graded this hadith hasan sahih.
Notes and open questions — unreviewed
Here ‘sexual intercourse’ renders nikah in the context of the specific prohibition during menstruation; the report otherwise encourages ordinary domestic closeness.