Jami' at-Tirmidhi
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1171
حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا اللَّيْثُ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ بْنِ أَبِي حَبِيبٍ، عَنْ أَبِي الْخَيْرِ، عَنْ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ عَامِرٍ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " إِيَّاكُمْ وَالدُّخُولَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ " . فَقَالَ رَجُلٌ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَفَرَأَيْتَ الْحَمْوَ قَالَ " الْحَمْوُ الْمَوْتُ " . قَالَ وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ عُمَرَ وَجَابِرٍ وَعَمْرِو بْنِ الْعَاصِ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى حَدِيثُ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ عَامِرٍ حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ . وَإِنَّمَا مَعْنَى كَرَاهِيَةِ الدُّخُولِ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ عَلَى نَحْوِ مَا رُوِيَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " لاَ يَخْلُوَنَّ رَجُلٌ بِامْرَأَةٍ إِلاَّ كَانَ ثَالِثَهُمَا الشَّيْطَانُ " . وَمَعْنَى قَوْلِهِ " الْحَمْوُ " . يُقَالُ هُوَ أَخُو الزَّوْجِ كَأَنَّهُ كَرِهَ لَهُ أَنْ يَخْلُوَ بِهَا .
Unreviewed translation. All hadiths in this collection are available in five languages. Titles and introductions may remain in Arabic.
Qutaybah narrated to us: al-Layth narrated to us, from Yazid ibn Abi Habib, from Abu al-Khayr, from Uqbah ibn Amir: The Messenger of Allah said: Beware of entering upon women. A man from the Ansar asked: O Messenger of Allah, what about the husband's male relatives? He said: The husband's male relatives are death. It is also reported in this chapter from Umar, Jabir, and Amr ibn al-As. Abu Isa said: The hadith of Uqbah ibn Amir is hasan sahih. The prohibition on entering upon women is understood in light of the Prophet's statement: No man should be alone with a woman, for Satan is the third of them. “The husband's male relatives” refers to his brother and similar relatives; the warning is against being alone with her.
Notes and open questions — unreviewed
The Arabic word hamw refers to a husband's male relatives, especially his brother. The report's phrase ‘are death’ is a warning about the danger of private seclusion.