The Chapters on Marriage

كتاب النكاح

Chapter 22: Effeminate men

It was narrated from Ibn 'Abbas

that the Prophet cursed men who imitate women and woman who imitate men.

Chapter 23: Offering congratulations on the occasion of marriage

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah

that the Prophet used to say, when offering congratulations of the occasion of marriage: “Barak Allahu lakum, wa barak 'alaikum, wa jama'a bainakuma fi khair (May Allah bless you and bestow blessings upon you, and bring you together in harmony).”

It was narrated from `Aqil bin Abu Talib

that he married a woman from Banu Jusham, and they said: “May you live in harmony and have many sons.” He said: “Do not say that, rather say what the Messenger of Allah said: 'Allahumma barik lahum wa barik `alaihim (O Allah, bless them and bestow blessings upon them).' ”

Chapter 24: The Walimah (wedding feast)

It was narrated from Anas bin Malik

the Prophet saw traces of yellow perfume on 'Abdur-Rahmaan bin 'Awf, and he asked him “What is this?” He said: “O Messenger of Allah, I married a women for the weight of a Nawah (Stone) of gold. He said: “May Allah bless you. Give a feast even if it is only with one sheep.”

It was narrated that Anas bin Malik said

“I never saw the Messenger of Allah give a wedding feast for any of his wives like the feast he gave for Zainab, for which he slaughtered a sheep.”

It was narrated from Anas bin Malik

that the Prophet offered Sawiq and dates as a wedding feast for Safiyyah.

It was narrated from Sufyan (Ibn 'Uyainah) from `Ali bin Zaid bin Ju`dan from Anas bin Malik who said

“I attended a wedding feast for the Prophet in which there was no meat and no bread.”Ibn Majah said: It was not narrated except by Ibn `Uyainah.

It was narrated that 'Aishah and Umm Salamah said

“The Messenger of Allah commanded us to prepare Fatimah (for her wedding) and take her in to 'Ali. We went to the house and sprinkled it with soft earth from the land of Batha'. Then we stuffed two pillows with (date - palm) fiber which we picked with our own hands. Then we offered dates and raisins to eat, and sweet water to drink. We went and got some wood and set it up at the side of the room, to hang the clothes and water skins on. And we never saw any wedding better than the wedding of Fatimah.”

It was narrated that Sahl bin Sa'd As-Sa'idi said

“Abu Usaid As-Sa'idi invited the Messenger of Allah to his wedding, and the bride herself served them. She said: 'Do you know what I gave the Messenger of Allah to drink? I had soaked some dates the night before, then in the morning I strained them and gave him that water to drink.' ”

Chapter 25: Accepting invitations

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said

“The worst of food is food of a wedding feast to which the rich are invited and the poor are not. Whoever does not accept an invitation has disobeyed Allah and His Messenger.' ”

It was narrated from Ibn 'Umar

that the Messenger of Allah said: “If anyone of you is invited to a wedding feast, let him accept.”

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah

that the Messenger of Allah said: 'The wedding feast on the first day is an obligation, on the second day is a custom and on the third day is showing off.”

Chapter 26: Staying with a virgin and a previously-married woman

It was narrated from Anas

that the Messenger of Allah said: “Three days for a previously-married woman and seven days for a virgin.”

It was narrated from Al-Harith from his father that when when the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) married Umm Salamah, he stayed with her for three days, then he said

“You are not insignificant in your husband's eyes. If you wish, I will stay with you for seven days, but then I will stay with my other wives for seven days too.”

Chapter 27: What the man should say when his bride comes in to him

It was narrated from 'Abdullah bin 'Amr

that the Prophet said: “When anyone of you gets a new wife, a servant, or an animal, let him take hold of the forelock and say: Allahumma inni as`aluka min khayriha wa khayri ma jubilat 'alaihi, wa 'audhu bika min sharriha wa sharri ma jubilat `alaih (O Allah, I ask You for the goodness within her and the goodness that she is inclined towards, and I seek refuge with you from the evil to which she is inclined).' ”

It was narrated from Ibn `Abbas

that the Prophet said: “When anyone of you has intercourse with his wife, let him say: Allahumma jannibnish-Shaitana wa jannibish-Shaitana ma razaqtani (O Allah, keep Satan away from me and keep Satan away from that with which You bless me).' Then if they have a child, Allah will never allow Satan to gain control over him or he will never harm him.”

Chapter 28: Covering oneself when having intercourse

Bahz bin Hakim narrated from his father that his grandfather said

“I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, with regard to our 'Awrah, what may we uncover of it and what must we conceal?' He said: 'Cover your 'Awrah, except from your wife and those whom your right hand possesses.' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, what if the people live close together?' He said: 'If you can make sure that no one sees it, then do not let anyone see it.' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, what if one of us is alone?' He said: 'Allah is more deserving that you should feel shy before Him than People.' ”

It was narrated from 'Utbah bin 'Abd Sulamain

that the Messenger of Allah said: “When anyone of you has intercourse with his wife, let him cover himself and not be naked liked donkeys.”

It was narrated from a freed slave of 'Aishah that 'Aishah said

“I never looked at or I never saw the private part of the Messenger of Allah.' ”

Chapter 29: Prohibition of having intercourse with women in the buttocks

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah

that the Prophet said: “Allah will not look at a man who has intercourse with his wife in her buttocks.”