Be quiet, my daughter. Don't you know that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) had said:" The deceased is punished because of his family's weeping over the death"?
Hadith Context and Authenticity
This narration is recorded in Sahih Muslim (927a) and other authentic collections. The full hadith states: "The deceased is punished in his grave due to the wailing over him." This refers to excessive, loud lamentation that was common in pre-Islamic ignorance (Jahiliyyah).
Scholarly Interpretation
Classical scholars like Imam Nawawi explains this refers to cases where the deceased had instructed their family to wail excessively after their death, or when they knew their family would engage in prohibited mourning practices yet didn't forbid them during their lifetime.
Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani clarifies that the punishment is not for mere natural sadness, but for the specific prohibited acts of wailing (nawh), tearing clothes, and other extravagant displays of grief that show dissatisfaction with Allah's decree.
Permissible Mourning
The Shari'ah permits natural crying with tears and feeling grief, as the Prophet ﷺ himself wept when his son Ibrahim died. What is prohibited is loud wailing, screaming, striking one's face, tearing clothes, or using phrases that show rebellion against divine decree.
Practical Application
Muslims should comfort the bereaved with patience and remembrance of Allah. The deceased benefits most from sincere du'a (supplication), charity given on their behalf, and righteous children who pray for them - not from excessive displays of grief that contradict Islamic teachings.