General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)

كتاب الأدب

Chapter 6: Regarding good interactions with people

Narrated Anas ibn Malik

I never said that when any man brought his mouth to the ear of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and he withdrew his head until the man himself withdrew his head, and I never saw that when any man took him by his hand and he withdrew his hand, until the man himself withdrew his hand.

Chapter 8: Regarding good character

Narrated AbudDarda'

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: There is nothing heavier than good character put in the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection.

Abu al-Walid said: I heard 'Ata al-Kaikharani say: Abu Dawud said: His name is 'Ata b. Ya'qub. He is the maternal uncle of Ibrahim b. Nafi'. He is called Kaikharani or Kukharani.

Chapter 11: Regarding gentleness

`Abd Allah b. Mughaffal reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying

Allah is gentle, likes gentleness, and gives for gentleness what he does not give for harshness.

Chapter 12: Regarding gratitude for acts of kindness

Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: If someone is donated something, and he mentions it, he thanks for it, and if he conceals it, he is ungrateful for it.

Chapter 13: Regarding sitting in the streets

Abu Hurairah reported the Prophet (ﷺ) as saying on the same occasion

And guiding the people on their way.

Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: the same occasion: Help the oppressed (sorrowful) and guide those who have lost their way.

Chapter 14: Regarding spaciousness in gatherings

Narrated AbuSa'id al-Khudri

I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: The best places to sit are those which provide most room.

Abu Dawud said: The name of 'Abd al-Rahman b. Abi 'Amr is 'Abd al-Rahman b. 'Amr b. Abi 'Umrat al-Ansari.

Chapter 15: Regarding sitting party in the sun and party in the shade

Qais quoted his father as saying that he (his father) came when the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) was addressing. He stood in the sun. He ordered him (to shift) and he shifted to the shade.

Chapter 16: Regarding sitting in circles

Narrated Jabir ibn Samurah

When we came to the Prophet (ﷺ), each one would sit down where there was room.

Chapter 1: Regarding forbearance and the character of the Prophet(pbuh)

Narrated Anas ibn Malik

I served the Prophet (ﷺ) at Medina for ten years. I was a boy. Every work that I did was not according to the desire of my master, but he never said to me: Fie, nor did he say to me: Why did you do this? or Why did you not do this?

Chapter 2: Regarding dignity

Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: Good way, dignified good bearing and moderation are the twenty-fifth part of Prophecy.

Chapter 3: Regarding suppressing anger

Narrated Mu'adh ibn Anas

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: If anyone suppresses anger when he is in a position to give vent to it, Allah, the Exalted, will call him on the Day of Resurrection over the heads of all creatures, and ask him to choose any of the bright and large eyed maidens he wishes.

Abu Dawud said: The name of the transmitter Abu Marhum is 'Abd al-Rahman b. Maimun

Chapter 4: What should be said at the time of anger

Narrated Mu'adh ibn Jabal

Two men reviled each other in the presence of the Prophet (ﷺ) and one of them became excessively angry so much so that I thought that his nose will break up on account of excess of anger. The Prophet (ﷺ) said: I know a phrase which, if he repeated, he could get rid of this angry feeling. They asked: What is it, Messenger of Allah? He replied: He should say: I seek refuge in Thee from the accursed devil. Mu'adh then began to ask him to do so, but he refused and persisted in quarrelling, and began to enhance his anger.

Narrated Atiyyah as-Sa'di

AbuWa'il al-Qass said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as-Sa'di. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and performed ablution, and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah who reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.

Chapter 5: Being tolerant

`A’isha said

the Messenger of Allah (saws ) never struck a servant or a woman.

Chapter 6: Regarding good interactions with people

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin

A man asked permission to see the Prophet (ﷺ), and the Prophet (ﷺ) said: He is a bad member of the tribe. When he entered, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) treated in a frank and friendly way and spoke to him. When he departed , I said: Messenger of Allah! When he asked permission, you said: He is a bad member of the tribe, but when he entered, you treated him in a frank and friendly way. The Messenger of Allah replied: Aisha! Allah does not like the one who is unseemly and lewd in his language.

Chapter 7: Modesty (Al-haya)

Abu Mas`ud reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying

One of the things people have learnt from the words of the earliest prophecy is : If you have no shame, do what you like.

Chapter 8: Regarding good character

Harithah b. Wahab reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying

neither the Jawwaz nor the Jazari will enter paradise. He said that the Jawwaz is the one who is coarse and uncivil.

Chapter 10: Regarding it being disliked to praise (people)

Abu Bakrah said that when a man praised another man in his face in the presence of the Prophet (ﷺ) said

You have beheaded your friend (saying it three times). He then said : One who cannot help expressing praise of his companion, should say : I consider him such and such (as he intends to say), but I do not declare him pure with Allah.

Narrated Abdullah ibn ash-Shikhkhir

I went with a deputation of Banu Amir to the apostle of Allah (ﷺ), and we said: You are our lord (sayyid). To this he replied: The lord is Allah, the Blessed and Exalted. Then we said: And the one of us most endowed with excellence and superiority. To this he replied: Say what you have to say, or part of what you have to say, and do not let the devil make you his agents.