Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives

كتاب البر والصلة عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم

Chapter 1: What Has Been Related About Being Dutiful To Parents.

Bahz bin Hakim narrated from his father, from his grandfather who said

"I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! Who most deserves(my) reverence?' He said: 'Your mother.'" He said: "I said: 'Then who?' He said: 'Your mother.'"He said: "I said: 'Then who?' He said: 'Your mother.'"He said: "I said: 'Then who?' He said: 'Then your father, then the nearest relatives, then the nearest relatives.'"

Chapter 2: Also About That

Ibn Mas'ud said

"I asked the Messenger of Allah: 'O Messenger of Allah! Which is the most virtuous of deeds?' He said: 'Salat during its appropriate time.' I said: 'Then what, O Messenger of Allah?' He said: 'Being dutiful to one's parents.' I said: 'Then what, O Messenger of Allah?' He said: 'Jihad in the cause of Allah.'Then the messenger of Allah was silent, and if I had asked him more, he would have told me more.'"

Chapter 3: What Has Been About The Virtue Of Pleasing One's Parents

Abdullah bin Amr narrated that

the Prophet said: "The Lord's pleasure is in the parent's pleasure, and the Lord's anger is in the parent's anger."(Hasan).

Abu 'Abdur-Rahman As-Sulami narrated from Abu Ad Darda'.

He said that a man came and said : "I have a wife whom my mother has ordered me to divorce." So Abu Ad-Darda said: " I heard the Messenger of Allah saying: 'The father is the middle gate to Paradise. So if you wish, then neglect that door, or protect it.'"

Chapter 4: What Has Been Related About Disobeying Parents

'Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Bakrah narrated from his father who said

" The messenger of Allah said: 'Shall I not tell you of the biggest of the major sins?' they said : 'Of course! O Messenger of Allah!' He said: 'To join partners with Allah, and disobeying one's parents.'"He said : " He sat up, and he had been reclining. He said: 'And false testimony, or false speech.' And the Messenger of Allah would not stop saying it until we said (to ourselves): 'I wish that he would stop.'"

'Abdullah bin 'Amr narrated that

the Messenger of Allah said: "It is among the greatest of sins that a man should curse his parents." They said: "O Messenger of Allah! Does a man curse his parents?" He said: "Yes. He verbally abuses the father of a man, who in turn, verbally abuses his father, and he (retaliates and) curses his mother , so he curses his mother."

Chapter 5: What Has Been Related About Honoring The Father's Friends

Ibn 'Umar narrated that

the Prophet said: "Among the most dutiful of deeds is that a man nurture relations with the people his father was friends with."

Chapter 6: About Being Dutiful To The Maternal Aunt

Al-Bara' bin Azib narrated that

the Prophet said: "The maternal aunt holds the same status as the mother."

(Another chain) From Ibn 'Umar

A man came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said: "O Messenger of Allah! I have been afflicted by a tremendous sin. Is there any repentance forme?" He said: "Do you have your mother?" The man said: "No." He said: "Do you have any maternal aunts?" The man said: "Yes." He said:"Then be dutiful to them."

(Another chain) From Abu Bakr bin Hafs, from the Prophet (ﷺ), and it is similar, but he did not mention "from Ibn `Umar" in it. This is more correct than the Hadith of Abu Mu'awiyah, and Abu Bakr bin Hafs is Ibn 'Umar bin Sa'd bin Abi Waqqas (narrators in the chain of this Hadith.)

Chapter 7: What Has Been Related About Supplicating For One's Parents

Abu Harairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah said

"Three supplications are accepted , there is no doubt in them (about them being accepted): The supplication of the oppressed, the supplication of the traveler, and the supplication of his father against his son."

Chapter 8: What Has Been Related About Parent's Rights

Abu Hurairah narrated that

the Messenger of Allah said: "A son could not do enough for his father, unless he found him as a slave and purchased him to set him free."

Chapter 9: What Has Been Related About Severing the Ties Of Kinship

Abu Salamah said

" Abu[Ar-Raddad] Al-Laithi complained(of an illness). So 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Awf visited him. He said: 'The best of you, and the most apt to maintain good relations, as far as I know, is Abu Muhammad('Abdur-Rahman bin 'Awf). So 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Awf' said: 'I heard the Messenger of Allah saying : "Allah, Most Blessed and Most High, said: 'I am Allah, and I am Ar-Rahman. I created the Rahim(womb), and named it after My Name. So whoever keeps good relations with it, I keep good relation with him, and whoever severs it, I am finished with him.'"

Chapter 10: What Has Been Related About Connecting The Ties Of Kinship

'Abdullah bin Amr narrated that

the Prophet said: "Merely maintaining the ties of kinship is not adequate. But connecting the ties of kinship is when his ties to the womb are severed and he connects it."

Muhammad bin Jubair bin Mut'im narrated from his father, that

the Messenger of Allah said: "The one who severs ties will not enter Paradise." Ibn Abi 'Umar said: "Sufyan said: 'Meaning: Ties of the womb."

Chapter 11: What Has Been Related About The Love Of A Parent For His Child

'Umar bin 'Abdul-'Aziz said

'a righteous woman, Khawlah bint Hakim said: "The Messenger of Allah came out during the middle of the day, while holding one of the sons of his daughter in his arms. He was saying: 'You are what makes them stingy, cowardly and ignorant. And you are but Raihanillah

Chapter 12: What Has Been Related About Being Merciful With The Children

Abu Hurairah narrated

"Al-Aqra' bin Habis saw the prophet kissing Al-Hasan"- Ibn Abi 'Umar (one of the narrators) said:"Al-Hasan and Al-Husain." So he said: 'I have ten children and I do not kiss any one of them.' So the Messenger of Allah said: 'Whoever shows no mercy, he will be shown no mercy."

Chapter 13: What Has Been Related About Spending on Daughters And Sisters

Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri narrated that

the Messenger of Allah said: "There is no one who has three daughters, or three sisters, and he treats them well, except that he enters paradise."

Aishah narrated that the

Messenger of Allah said:"Whoever is tried with something from daughters, and he is patient with them, they will be a barrier from the Fire for him."