Funerals

Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, ‘No Muslim loses three children to death and then enters the Fire, except as an expiation of the oath.’

Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said to some women of the Ansar, ‘If three of your children die and you seek your reward with Allah, you will enter Paradise.’ One of them said, ‘And two, Messenger of Allah?’ He said, ‘And two.’ In a version from both of them: ‘Three who had not reached the age of accountability.’ Muslim transmitted it.

Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said that Allah says, ‘What reward does My believing servant have with Me if I take from him his beloved one from among the people of this world and then he seeks reward, other than Paradise?’ Al-Bukhari transmitted it.

Abu Saeed al-Khudri reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, cursed the wailing woman and the one who listens to her. Abu Dawud transmitted it.

Saad ibn Abi Waqqas reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, ‘How wondrous is the believer! If good comes to him, he praises Allah and gives thanks; if a calamity befalls him, he praises Allah and is patient. The believer is rewarded in every matter, even when he raises a morsel to his wife’s mouth.’ Al-Bayhaqi transmitted it in Shuab al-Iman.

Anas reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, ‘Every believer has two gates: a gate through which his knowledge ascends and a gate through which his provision descends. When he dies, the two weep for him.’ He said: This is the saying of the Exalted: ‘Neither heaven nor earth wept for them.’ Al-Tirmidhi transmitted it.

Ibn Abbas reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, ‘Whoever has two forerunners from my community, Allah will admit him to Paradise through them.’ Aisha said, ‘And whoever has one forerunner from your community?’ He replied, ‘And whoever has one forerunner, O you who are granted success.’ She said, ‘And whoever has no forerunner from your community?’ He said, ‘I am the forerunner of my community; they will not suffer the loss of anyone like me.’ Al-Tirmidhi transmitted it and said, ‘This is a singular hadith.’

Abu Musa al-Ashari reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, ‘When a servant’s child dies, Allah, Exalted is He, says to His angels, “Have you taken My servant’s child?” They say, “Yes.” He says, “Have you taken the fruit of his heart?” They say, “Yes.” He says, “What did My servant say?” They say, “He praised You and said, ‘We belong to Allah and to Him we return.’” Allah says, “Build a house for My servant in Paradise and name it the House of Praise.”’ Ahmad and al-Tirmidhi transmitted it.

Abdullah ibn Masud reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, ‘Whoever consoles someone afflicted will have a reward like his.’ Al-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah transmitted it. Al-Tirmidhi said, ‘This is a singular hadith. We know it as a report traced back to the Prophet only through the narration of Ali ibn Asim.’ He added, ‘Some transmitted it from Muhammad ibn Suqa with this chain as a mawquf report.’

Abu Barza reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, ‘Whoever consoles a bereaved woman will be clothed in a cloak in Paradise.’ Al-Tirmidhi transmitted it and said, ‘This is a singular hadith.’

Abdullah ibn Jafar reported: When news of Jafar’s death arrived, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, ‘Prepare food for the family of Jafar, for something has come upon them that occupies them.’ Al-Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud, and Ibn Majah transmitted it.

Al-Mughira ibn Shuba reported: I heard the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, say, ‘Whoever is wailed over will be punished for what he was wailed over on the Day of Resurrection.’

Amra bint Abd al-Rahman reported: I heard Aisha, when Abdullah ibn Umar’s statement that the deceased is punished by the living’s weeping over him was mentioned to her, say, ‘May Allah forgive Abu Abd al-Rahman. He did not lie, but he forgot or made a mistake. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, only passed by a Jewish woman who was being wept over and said, “They are weeping over her, and she is being punished in her grave.”’

Abdullah ibn Abi Mulayka reported: A daughter of Uthman ibn Affan died in Mecca. We came to attend her, and Ibn Umar and Ibn Abbas were present. I was sitting between them. Abdullah ibn Umar said to Amr ibn Uthman, who was facing him, ‘Will you not stop the weeping? The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The deceased is indeed punished because of his family’s weeping over him.”’ Ibn Abbas said, ‘Umar used to say something like that.’ Then he related: I set out with Umar from Mecca, and when we reached al-Bayda, there was a group of riders beneath a samura tree. Umar said, ‘Go and see who these riders are.’ I looked and saw that it was Suhayb. I told him, and Umar said, ‘Call him.’ I returned to Suhayb and said, ‘Set out and catch up with the Commander of the Faithful.’ When Umar was struck, Suhayb came in weeping and saying, ‘Alas for my brother! Alas for my companion!’ Umar said, ‘Suhayb, are you weeping over me when the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The deceased is indeed punished because of some of his family’s weeping over him”?’ Ibn Abbas said: When Umar died, I mentioned this to Aisha. She said, ‘May Allah have mercy on Umar. No, by Allah, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, did not say that the deceased is indeed punished because of his family’s weeping over him. Rather, Allah increases the unbeliever’s punishment because of his family’s weeping over him.’ Aisha also said, ‘The Quran is sufficient for you: “No bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another.”’ Ibn Abbas then said, ‘By Allah, I have laughed and wept.’ Ibn Abi Mulayka said: Ibn Umar said nothing.

Aisha reported: When news came to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, of the deaths of Ibn Haritha, Jafar, and Ibn Rawaha, he sat with grief visible in him. I was watching him from the side opening of the door. A man came and said, ‘The women of Jafar,’ mentioning their weeping. He ordered him to forbid them. The man went, then came a second time, saying they had not obeyed him. The Prophet said, ‘Forbid them.’ He came a third time and said, ‘By Allah, they have overcome us, Messenger of Allah.’ I think the Prophet said, ‘Throw dust into their mouths.’ I said, ‘May Allah rub your nose in the dust! You did not do what the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, ordered you, nor did you spare him the distress.’

Umm Salama reported: When Abu Salama died, I said, ‘A stranger, in a foreign land! I will surely weep for him with a weeping that people will talk about.’ I had prepared myself to weep over him when a woman came intending to help me. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, met her and said, ‘Do you intend to bring Satan into a house from which Allah has driven him out?’ He said this twice. I stopped weeping and did not weep. Muslim transmitted it.

Al-Numan ibn Bashir reported: Abdullah ibn Rawaha fainted, and his sister Amra began to weep, crying, ‘O my mountain! O this and that!’ and enumerating his qualities. When he regained consciousness, he said, ‘You said nothing without being told, “Are you really like that?”’ In one version, when he died she did not weep over him. Al-Bukhari transmitted it.

Abu Musa said: I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, ‘No deceased person dies while those mourning him rise and cry, “Alas for my mountain! Alas for my chief!” or the like, but Allah appoints two angels over him who strike him and say, “Were you really like that?”’ Al-Tirmidhi transmitted it and said: This is a gharīb hasan hadith.

Abu Huraira said: A member of the household of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ died, and the women gathered weeping for him. Umar stood up, forbidding them and driving them away. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, ‘Let them be; the eye is shedding tears, the heart is afflicted, and the event is recent.’ Ahmad and al-Nasa’i transmitted it.

Ibn Abbas said: When Zainab, daughter of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, died, the women wept. Umar began striking them with his whip, but the Messenger of Allah ﷺ restrained him with his hand and said, ‘Gently, Umar!’ Then he said, ‘Beware of the devil’s wailing.’ He continued, ‘Whatever comes from the eye and the heart is from Allah, Mighty and Majestic, and from compassion; whatever comes from the hand and the tongue is from the devil.’ Ahmad transmitted it.