Parents

كتاب الْوَالِدَيْنِ

Chapter 11: Allah prolongs the life of someone who is dutiful towards his

Mu'adh said, "Bliss belongs to someone who is dutiful towards his parents. Allah Almighty will prolong his life."

Chapter 12: One does not ask forgiveness for his father if he is an

Ibn 'Abbas mentioned the words of the Almighty, "When one or bothof them reach old age with you, do not say 'Ugh!' to them out of irritationand do not be harsh with them but speak to them with gentleness and generosity.Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due humility and say

'Lord,show mercy to them as they did in looking after me when I was small."(17:23-24) He said, "This was abrogated in Surat at-Tawba: 'Itis not right for the Prophet and those who have iman to ask forgiveness forthe mushrikun even if they are close relatives after it has become clearto them that they are the Companions of the Blazing Fire.' (9:113)"

Chapter 17: The Supplication of Parents

Abu Hurayra reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, "No human child has ever spoken in the cradle except for 'Isa ibn Maryam, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and the companion of Jurayj." Abu Hurayra asked, "Prophet of Allah, who was the companion of Jurayj?" The Prophet replied, "Jurayj was a monk who lived in a hermitage. There was a cowherd who used to come to the foot of his hermitage and a woman from the village used to come to the cowherd.

Chapter 19: Dutifulness towards Parents after their Death

Abu Usayd said, "We were with the Messenger of Allah, may Allah blesshim and grant him peace, when a man asked, 'Messenger of Allah, is thereany act of dutifulness which I can do for my parents after their death?'He replied, 'Yes. There are four things

Supplication for them, askingforgiveness for them, fulfilling their pledges, and being generous to friendsof theirs. You only have ties of kinship through your parents."

Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless himand grant him peace, said, "When a person dies, all action is cut off forhim with the exception of three things

sadaqa which continues, knowledgewhich benefits, or a righteous child who makes supplication for him."

Chapter 20: The Dutifulness of someone who maintains what his father

Ibn 'Umar reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The strongest form of dutifulness is when a man maintains relations with the people his father loved."

Chapter 24: Can a man call his father by his kunya?

Shahr ibn Hawshab said, "We went out with Ibn 'Umar and Salim said to him, 'Peace, Abu 'Abdu'r-Rahman.'"

'Abdullah ibn Dinar said reported that Ibn 'Umar said, "But Abu Hafs 'Umar decided..."

Chapter 6: Repaying Parents

Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "A child cannot repay his father unless he finds him as a slave and the buys him and sets him free."

Chapter 9: Being Dutiful to Parents as long as that does not entail disobedience

Abu'd-Darda' said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and granthim peace, recommended nine things to me

'Do not associate anything withAllah, even if you are cut to pieces or burned. Do not abandon a prescribedprayer deliberately. Anyone who abandons it will forfeit Allah's protection.Do not drink wine - it is the key to every evil. Obey your parents. If theycommand you to abandon your worldly possessions, then leave them for them.Do not contend with those in power, even if you think that you are in theright. Do not run away from the army when it advances, even if you arekilled while your companions run away. Spend on your wife out of your means.Do not raise a stick against your wife. Cause your family to fear Allah,the Almighty and Exalted.'"

'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said, "A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, wanting to do jihad. The Prophet asked, 'Are your parents alive?' 'Yes,' he replied. he said, 'Then exert yourself on their behalf.'"

Chapter 13: Dutifulness towards a parent who is an idolater

Ibn 'Umar said, "'Umar saw a silk robe for sale. He said, 'Messenger of Allah, would you buy this robe and wear it on Jumu'a and when delegations visit you?' He replied, 'Only a person who has no portion in the Next World could wear this.' Then the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was given some robes made of the same material. He sent one of the robes to 'Umar. 'Umar exclaimed, 'How can I wear it when you said what you said about it?' The Prophet replied, 'I did not give it to you so that you could wear it. You can sell it or give it to someone.' 'Umar sent it to a brother of his in Makka who had not yet become Muslim."

Chapter 15: The punishment for disobeying parents

Abu Bakra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "There is no wrong action more likely to bring punishment in this world in addition to what is stored up in the Next World than oppression and severing ties of kinship."

'Imran ibn Husayn said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'What do you say about fornication, drinking wine and theft?' 'Allah and His Messenger know best,' we replied. He stated, 'They are acts of outrage and there is punishment for them, but shall I tell you which is the greatest of the great wrong actions? Associating with Allah Almighty and disobeying parents.' He had been reclining, but then he sat up and said, 'and lying.'"

Chapter 16: Making Parents weep

Ibn 'Umar said, "Making parents weep is part of disobedience and one of the major wrong actions."

Chapter 18: Offering Islam to a Christian mother

Abu Hurayra said, "Neither Jew nor Christian has heard me and then not loved me. I wanted my mother to become Muslim, but she refused. I told her about it and she still refused. I went to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, 'Pray to Allah for me.' He did so and I went to her. She was inside the door of the house and said, 'Abu Hurayra, I have become Muslim.' I told the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and I asked, 'Make supplication to Allah for me and my mother.' He said, 'O Allah, make people love Abu Hurayra and his mother.'"

Chapter 19: Dutifulness towards Parents after their Death

Abu Hurayra said, "The dead person can be raised a degree after his death. He said, 'My Lord, how is this?' He was told, 'Your child can ask for forgiveness for you.'"

Chapter 22: Love is inherited

Abu Bakr ibn Hazm reported that one of the Companions of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "It is enough that I tell you that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Love is inherited.'"

Chapter 3: Dutifulness to One's Father

Abu Hurayra reported

"A man came to the Prophet of Allah, may Allah blesshim and grant him peace, and asked, 'What do you command me to do?' He replied,'Be dutiful towards your mother.' Then he asked him the same question againand he replied, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' He repeated it yet againand the Prophet replied, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' Then he put the question a fourth time and the Prophet said, 'Be dutiful towardsyour father.'"

Chapter 5: Gentle words to Parents

Taysala ibn Mayyas said, "I was with the Najadites [Kharijites] when Icommitted wrong actions which I supposed were major wrong actions. I mentionedthat to Ibn 'Umar. He inquired, 'What are they?" I replied, 'Such-and-such.'He stated, 'These are not major wrong actions. There are nine major wrongactions. They are

associating others with Allah, killing someone, desertionfrom the army when it is advancing, slandering a chaste woman, usury, consumingan orphan's property, heresy in the mosque, scoffing, and causing one's parentsto weep through disobedience.' Ibn 'Umar then said to me, 'Do you wish toseparate yourself from the Fire? Would you like to enter Paradise?' 'By Allah,yes!' I replied. He asked, 'Are your parents still alive?' I replied, 'Mymother is.' He said, 'By Allah, if you speak gently to her and feed her,then you will enter the Garden as long as you avoid the major wrong actions.'"